As we age our intelligence and the way it works changes. This is a reassuring concept I found in the new Arthur Brooks book “Strength To Strength”. We move to what is called crystallized intelligence in the second half of life, where we bring together and synthesize our knowledge. That’s what this blog is about in regards to coming to understand some things about myself. A bringing together of some learnings.
I have long held that my mission is joy! In a Tony Robbins five day immersion event a few years ago I stated my purpose to be “lighting a path” and “being an inspiration”. My firm belief is when we each shine our own light, we create the opportunity for others to do the same.
“Lightmaker” is the term used by Karen Walrond and it’s a good one! When we acknowledge our own inner Divine spark and fan it to create light – this is home. Sexy, Love, Lit Up, Energy is part of my tag line for SLE Coaching and that is what that tag is all about. Being in our light.
Here is the part that I have struggled with most often, not everyone is going to be on board or in agreement with your light. Sometimes people just aren’t open to it and that is not a reason to stop shining it. The thing is, just because someone doesn’t accept the gift of your shining light in the moment, that doesn’t mean it won’t impact them later that day, later that month or later in life. I have all too often allowed the lack of agreement with my light, to dim me. I has caused me to question myself; Who am I to be shining? Maybe I need to tone down, try to gain their acceptance, approval.
I have indeed fully given my light to those who had no capacity to honor its gift. I did that. No one took it from me, I willingly gave it to those who didn’t value it. I don’t say this as self-blame as much as awareness. It’s not that I or they did anything “wrong”, AND their being incapable of handling or honoring my light has been a huge catalyst for learning for me.
I am the custodian of my light. Period. I most certainly can and will share it – that’s really what it’s all about. But now, with this understanding and knowledge that I must keep the spark and tend to it myself rather than give it all over to someone who may be careless with it – I can create even more light.
"There's nothing "wrong" going on here" is a phrase my coach Joy Miley has used often in my journey. I think I finally get what she is saying! It's all part of the whole that leads us to being in our light.
Sandy Edie Hansen
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