Each weekday morning and afternoon, ​I team up with my dear friend Spencer Williams to create a short three minute radio show on KMA! You can listen to it any time, day or night on the website.

We talk about personal growth, relationships and things we are each learning on our own spiritual paths and striving to be better human beings. It's fun as well as information you can use!
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The name comes from the two XX chromosomes that create us female's - gotta love that!

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Damn. This feels like great news and daunting all at the same time.
It has proven to be very true in my experience.   I expended loads of energy trying to gain clarity on the responsibility of others in how I felt or saw myself. Until I got clear that I was the one in my own way it was impossible to surrender to the grace that was calling me all along.

This was a revelation to me. Its  possibly why some  dependents fear that they are narcissists.  Both of these operating systems are about lack of a healthy sense of self. They often struggle to get a sense of who they truly are and their identities are defined by others.
While they have differences in the ways that they go about getting their need for an identity met from others, they share some traits. Check out my blog on this topic for more. 

This is great relationship stuff from the Gottman Institute. They are the folks who say they can predict the success or failure of a relationship by watching a couple interact for just ten minutes. It's all about whether or not they are using any of what they call "The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" in their communication styles.
The worst of the bunch... contempt.
Even if your partner won't work on their part of the relationship, you can be responsible for your own communication tactics.