Each weekday morning and afternoon, I team up with my dear friend Spencer Williams to create a short three minute radio show on KMA! You can listen to it any time, day or night on the website.
We talk about personal growth, relationships and things we are each learning on our own spiritual paths and striving to be better human beings. It's fun as well as information you can use! The name comes from the two XX chromosomes that create us female's - gotta love that! |
This right here is really hard for anyone with even a shred of codependency in their programming.
You've heard of fight, flight, freeze and research has shown there is another stress response we use - "fawn". It means we try to protect ourselves by over giving, rescuing, placating and very often we find that we are doing this with someone who likely can't reciprocate and won't ever be pleased. If someone doesn't appreciate what you're giving in the relationship, giving more of it probably isn't going to help. |
I laughed for a very long time the first time I saw this one!
Blame is addictive, it kills relationships AND it's bad for your own self-esteem. It feels so good for a moment or two, but ultimately, blame is corrosive and it's a tactic we use to avoid dealing with our OWN stuff. Stay on your own side of the street and clean that up before you try to change someone else with blame. |
When you find yourself doing something you can't seem to stop - check for where it meets your personal values.
The Brene' Brown list of values from her book Dare To Lead is something that can be a big help in setting your personal intentions. Just like a company must know what it's about in order to succeed and set a course, humans are similar. When we know our two or three personal values, we can aim ourselves in the direction of who we want to be and how we want to feel. Here is a link to the list. Scroll down, last item. |